Hmmm...I am not sure what day I am on...so I will pick 8

I am not 100% sure where I left off so I am starting with Day 8 because I didn't do anything past day 8.  Tonight I am tired and worn out from a wk with a sick baby so I didn't get any further ahead, but I also didn't really fall behind.

 Here are the pics that I promised the other day that wouldn't come out!  Enjoy my clean bathroom like I do...except a finished bath would be nice :)

Day 5 Swish and Swipe

I know the run down of how I am coming on my house is not everyone's ideal of a "good read", but this is helping me stay accountable to myself and it is keeping me on track to a cleaner more organized house.  Though I am adapting flylady to my needs it is working rather well for me.

I took her Swish and Swipe and turned it into my version of "Shine the Sink".  I did a very through cleaning in my bathroom (well the best I could givin it is under construction).



Well I tried to add pics, but it decided not to let me...Sorry :( 

Now I have a clean living room, entry way, bathroom, dining room and kitchen....they all need some help, but they are definately looking better!

Day 3 Mission House Clean/ Day 4

Well I didn't do anything but keep doing what I had already done for day 3.  It was the day we chose to celebrate Mo's birthday.  We did a tie-dye birthday party and we had alot of fun!!  14 kids doing t-shirts what more could you ask for :).  Really though it went very well and they had a blast!

So Day 4 was more or less just orgainizing in the kitchen.  I went and bought more "organization" items.  I am super excited to say I think (if my plan works out) that I am gonna paint my kitchen...I am really excited about this.  This will probably not be until we can open the windows in the house while painting.  My entry is getting clogged up with the kids stuff again, need to have them fix that.  Also my kitchen is staying clean as is my living room.  I did laundry today and my table shows it.  I would have had it all done, but I was interupted due to my husbands work.  I am super excited to say this seems to be working for me.  YAY!

Day 2 of my 31 Days DONE!

Day 2 of Babysteps...Flylady says "Get dressed all the way up to lace up shoes".  Some might say this is rather odd, but I find it to actually be a good thing.  I do this everyday anyways.  That way you are always ready and presentable and not in your pj's house coat and slippers....so you can't "answer" the door when the UPS guy shows up.  She suggests putting on your make-up because the better you look the better you feel even if NO ONE is gonna see you...I cannot say make-up did any more for me than not wearing make-up though....I always seem to wear it on Saturdays.

My Living Room has looked ok for several days now minus my entertainment center....but we are in the middle of a bathroom make-over and tooth brushes and all the likes are on the entertainment center for the time being...fun.  Though I am happy with the way the room looks overall.

So My Beautiful 10 yr old is having her Birthday Party tomorrow....and I did what I normally do...and that is find a box or boxes that will hold all my junk...and PACK.  I didn't want to do it that way, but my dining room is my "hotspot" according to Flylady...more so my dining room table than anything.  I figure I got these rooms done...now the family NEEDS to help keep them that way.  There is NO reason for them to get messy again.  Even though it was a "Rush" job and I now have boxes to go through at least it is clean and I don't mind having a Birthday Party at MY house.  The Dining Room has some room for improvement, but I am happy with it.

Oh don't mind the table...it has the "needed" items for the party already sitting on it...and clothes I cannot put away because the owner of them is already sleeping.  Once again I am feeling very accomplished.

Shine the Sink

OK so I have done my Day 1.  Though it was a rough morning getting it just right it is finally done.  I shoulda taken a before, but I didn't.  No one woulda wanted to see it anyways...or maybe it is I wouldn't have wanted to show it?!?!  Probably the later, but you get my point.

I didn't think shining the sink would make me feel accomplished, but all in all it really does.  I feel like I did something....I also did a 15 minute power clean and managed to get my entryway done :)  I also enlisted Breanna's help and bagged all the laundry (we sorted it as we went).  So I also have a clean basement floor too.  I really feel like I did something today.  I almost feel like patting my own back.

Aside from needing a Kitchen remodel to get out of the 70's I am pretty proud of how my kitchen looks!  Thanks Katie and Thanks Fly Lady.

Oh and we cannot forget my awesome 15 min power clean in the entryway (ok so it took 20 min)

31 Days to Regain Control of MY House

I am so tired of never feeling like there are enough hrs in a day to accomplish all the things I need to get done.  I am always somewhere but NEVER anywhere.  This role in my life is driving me crazy.  I look at the house and it is total Chaos (Can't have anyone over syndrome).  I am tired of it.  I want to host game night at my house, I want to invite friends over for dinner, I want to have back yard bbq's....I have a whole list of wants....and they all revolve around a clean house.  My house did not get messy overnight and it most certainly is not gonna get clean in one day.  I need to do this in steps so can change my habits and patterns in my daily life. 

I have decided that I am gonna  conquer it a little at a time...today as flylady suggests I am gonna shine my sink.  I am gonna get all those dishes done and I am gonna scrub my sink clean.  After my sink is clean I am done for the day (ok I have laundry) but I am truely gonna follow flylady's suggestions to getting in my life in order 1 day at a time and NOT allowing it to overwhelm me.

BabySteps to a cleaner home!
Day 1 Shine your sink!!!  That is exactly what I plan to do.  This is supposed to be a reflection that I love myself.  I haven't figured it out yet as I HATE doing dishes, but hey what can it hurt right.

Well here goes day 1 jumpin in head first!  Wish me luck!!!

My Life as a Mommy and Wife pt 2

So I sit here hating my life at the moment.....yeah I seem to be up and down lately.  I feel like a single mom only I have the luxery of being a stay at home mom to my 6 wonderful children.  Where the stress comes in is my Usually wonderful husband doesn't feel the need to put his family first (in my eyes).  He feels he is putting his family first because he works to support the household and allow us the freedoms and luxeries we have.  Ok he works 5 hrs a day MAYBE.  On a busy day he is going non stop and yet other days he may not work but an hr....and this is 7 days a wk.  Heck we have even had weeks where he has had a day or 2 with NO work at all....but the need to be involved at home NEVER occures to him.

We have 6 kids between 3 schools.  I spend 2 days a wk at the counciler with 2 of the kids.  Well each goes once.  We deal with anger and depression among many other things.  To do this running takes approx 2 hrs out of any type of schedule I could possibly have.  We have one who recantly we need to device a whole new meal plan for him...this ought to be fun.  No red dye and no sugars....it is very hard to find anything that does NOT contain one of those two ingrediants.  I have laundry and house cleaning, dishes and you name it to do for 6 in the house...this is on top of the fact that I do the grocery shopping, pay the bills, and well literally ANYTHING that does not involve Mike's work... I do it.  I take the kids shopping when needed I take them to bday parties anything that comes up I am the one who does it.  I am on a time limit with everything I do.  I can be out trying to find something one of the kids needs and I just might get a call from Mike asking when I am gonna be home cause he has a call and needs to leave.   I can never just do anything that needs to be done.

Today prime example....I need to go shopping for Brandon and I need to get some storage containers.  I asked Mike at 11 am if he was busy cause I had stuff that I needed to do and Ren needed her nap.  He said he was waiting on a call and he was gonna need to head up to Sturgis.  Well I fed the kids lunch and attempted to do the running that needed to be done....yeah what fun Ren was a complete pain in the butt and made the whole thing miserable so I just went back home...accomplishing NOTHING and guess what it is 3 pm and Mike still has NOT received his phone call 4 hrs later and I couldn't go do what I needed to because he might have to work.  I could have done what I needed to do, Ren could have had her nap and I could still have taken Brandon and Ren with me to get the girls from school...but of course instead NOTHING gets done because....Mike's clients come first.  How fucking rediculas.  I get tired of putting my life on hold for his work.  He never says NO and he never puts me and the kids first....when is he gonna learn that MONEY does NOT make his family happy his time does.  I should NOT have a schedule 100% of the time I leave the house.  He can tell his clients NO or ask them to wait.  We will not die if we lose one call.

He couldn't tell you anything that goes on with the kids because he is not involved.  He knows nothing of what goes on at counciling.  He couldn't tell you anything about Brandon's new diet.  He does not pay any attention to anything that goes on with US but he can tell you the life fucking stories of those he deals with for work.  Really fucked up if you ask me.  I can tell him things until I am blue in the face and 5 min later he won't have a damn clue what I told him no matter how important what I told him is.

Another example I was mad at him for screwing up my day once again...he asked me to help him clean.  I said no so he sat in a chair and fell asleep.  He will not do anything on his own though I clean all the time while he sits on his butt watching tv, playing with his phone, or at the computer. 

There is NOTHING about our Marriage that is a marriage.  The really sad part is I am not here for us anymore.  I feel no connection to him.  I am only here as to not destroy the lives of 6 kids.  I feel no physical attraction.  I have no interest in sex...it is just one more "job" to do.  I don't even really fully enjoy it when we do have sex.  Part of me is asking in my head if it's over yet.  All I want to do when I go to bed is sleep.  I don't want to make time for small talk, touching, cuddling or anything else that follows in the bed...I don't even want to be touched when I am awake let alone in bed.  I feel like I am just going through the motions and if something doesn't give then I need to leave.  This is not fair to me or to him.....but I am falling out of love and I hate my life.  I used to get all giddy thinging about him and us and our family and life and now all I feel is blank and empty.

I don't feel like a wife.  I feel like I am nothing more than a caregiver to the children, someone to tend to everything else, and a warm body in the bed.  I don't want his money.  I just want to be happy and this is not doing it because he lives his life around what makes him money and not his kids or his wife.  How do I fix it before it's too late?